This morning, as I did my usual procrastination scheme of checking my email instead of doing homework, I came across this living social for a personalized children’s book. I have two nieces and nephew that I adore more than anything so I absolutely HAD to check out this offer!
I came across this page.
” [name], I love you when you’re nice,
I love you when you’re cranky too.
I love you without liking the naughty things you do.”
Not gonna lie, I teared up a bit.
I think it’s easy for people to get this concept of loving the children in their lives, no matter what. It’s in our nature. I love Katie, Mackenzie and Noah, more that I ever I knew I could love anyone! Simply because they are MY nieces and nephew.
But honestly, when I read this I immediately thought, “Thats how God love me.” It has nothing to do with my accomplishments. Its because of who I am to him. I am his creation, the Bible says that I am his daughter. And for this reason, God’s love for me won’t be affected by “the naughty thing’s I’ve done”. (sidenote: If I feel this strong love for my nieces and nephews, how much more is God’s love for us, his sons and daughters? I can’t even comprehend that kind of love!).
How do I know this, that God loves me this much? Here is just one verse (of many) that will illustrate my point. Zephaniah 3:17 speaks of how much God loves his people, it says: “He will take great delight in you; in his love he will no longer rebuke you, but will rejoice over you with singing.”
Hold up, don’t get the wrong idea, I’m not on Christian Mingle. (No offense if you are, it’s just that I have an amazing boyfriend.) But I saw an ad today, that used an old Jars of Clay song, Love song for a Savior (you can see it here, Christian Mingle used a clip starting at second 57 or so…).
Not gunna lie, that upset me. People buy into this idea that finding a lover will make your life fall into place and you will live happily ever after. (Even social policy is written with mindset, but lets be real, I could write a thesis on that, so lets save that argument for another blog.) It’s simply not true. And it saddens me that even the church is not exempt from the effects of this lie.
Love song for a Savior, if you listen to the whole song, is about longing for an intimate relationship God. The love and desperation in the song is about that type of love, love for the Father God, not a piece of His creation. It’s not about how an intimate relationship with the opposite sex will fulfill all your needs, it’s about how love for the Father, Creator, Savior, God is what we crave, what we were created for.
Some of you are reading this thinking, oh my-lanta yes! And some of you are thinking that I’m totally cray-cray. Thats ok. But this crazy, passionate love I have for my Savior has lead me to some awesome places.
Just about two years ago, I was packing up my stuff, leaving my home in Tijuana, Mexico, and moving to Costa Rica for an indefinite amount of time. Now I’m on my most challenging adventure- Graduate School! (I’m finishing my first year at UConn’s MSW program, again, that’s a topic for another day…) This summer I have a chance to help a team of teenagers on a short term missions trip, and share this crazy love for my Savior out on the mission field again!
I’m so excited to have this opportunity, and I’ll be sharing more in the weeks to come.
(…but if you just can’t wait, and you are super excited to support me, Team Bing has been updated with information about how…)
Reading for class, so OF COURSE I’m inspired to write a blog.
No, I’m not procrastinating, how DARE you accuse me of that!
I’m studying social work, and this particular reading is about the way women act in groups (relationships) vs how men act in similar settings. Yup, we act differently! Shocking, I know. I came across this:
Tannen (1990) describes a study by Johnstone involving community and contest that concludes that men see power as coming from an individual acting in opposition to others and to natural forces, and that life is seen as a contest. This fits with our understanding of the power and control stage for men. She goes on to conclude that for women, community is the source of power, and that for women the danger is being cut off from the community.
So that means that men need to feel that they have ability to oppose others, to express their ideas to have power. (Keep in mind that power in this context is a deeper meaning. It refers to the ability to have autonomy, to be a meaningful part of the group, but it does not mean to lord over the others). Women are able to have power in a relationship by feeling that are a part of the community.
It reminded me of a verse I always have issues with, as I am SUCH a feminist.
Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
In my newer understanding I see these verses this way:
Women, don’t try to control everything (even though we all know you totally could), let your husband have a say, it will make him feel valued by you.
Men, show your wife that you love her, treat her with respect as an equal, that is how she will feel that you value her.
Ok, I’m no expert on relationships, and certainly no Bible scholar. But I love when I see God’s truths expressed in VERY non-christian literature. And yes, I am procrastinating.